Is Remarriage Good Or Singleness After Spouse Death Is Good?
Question : Brother, you confirmed through the post "Can We As Christian's Divorce And Marry Again? Does God Really Permit It?" what I felt the Lord telling me when my husband divorced me to live the wild life of drugs & alcohol. People...even Christian people, kept telling me that in the new covenant I was free to remarry...but I did not feel peace from the Lord to do so. I begged the Holy Spirit to show me in Scripture that they were right...but I never saw it even in the scriptures they quoted. Now my ex-husband is dead from a drug overdose. Now I feel free from that bond. What is your take on it?
Answer : You are right Sister. You are now free from that old bond as the Scripture also confirms by saying, " 2 For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man." (Rom 7:2-3). As much as remarriage to another Christian, another great thing that can be considered by you if God gives a special grace is suggested by apostle Paul as another alternative is given in the following Scripture with clear explanation, "39 A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she remains as she is, according to my judgment—and I think I also have the Spirit of God." (1 Cor 7:39-40). Apostle Paul gave his better and best opinion to live as a single person to other single people and widows is because he himself has been able to spend his life fully in complete devotion to the Lord and in the same way you can be able to devote yourself to the Lord completely. That is why Paul the apostle said, "7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." (1 Cor 7:7-9). In the area of sex if someone has still burning passions further, it does mean that the person will be better faithful and holy to the Lord in his or her life by marrying again and staying faithful to the person he or she marries in the Lord. It is better to marry in this case than to fall in to sin of the flesh without self-control and bring a dent to the great name of the Lord which a Christian represents. The next reason the great apostle Paul encouraged singleness after somebody has lost their husband or wife is because, " he who is married cares about the things of the world [i.e. how he or she may please his or her spouse]... He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord." (1 Cor 7:33, 32). Another great reason Paul the apostle gave is, "26 I suppose therefore that this [i.e. singleness] is good because of the present distress—that it is good for a man to remain as he is: 27 Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you loosed from a wife? Do not seek a wife." (1 Cor 7:26-27). We know the state of end time distress the world is going through, so it is better to stay single because of such problems so that we may leave this world joyfully praising God when the Rapture happens than to worry about the state of our family during that time. The bottom line is that according to each individual's desire and self-control that they have along with whether they posses the gift of singleness because of a intense desire to please the Lord wholeheartedly will matter in this regard, after considering all of the above points, one can proceed either to marry again or stay single in full devotion to the Lord.
Much Blessings.....
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