Why God Gave More Kids Yet I Can't Take Care Of Them?
Question: I'm a father of 10 kids and 1 grand child and currently not having anything to show for the past 40 years of my life. No house and currently living on the street. Can't pay school fees and feed my kids properly. My family is not even aware I'm staying in my vehicle as I can't afford rent. Truly frustrated, and living a life of lies as I pretend that I'm ok when I pitch to work as I arrive very early at work and use the work facility to shower properly. No money nothing to show. Why did God give such responsibility to have more kids yet I can't take care of them?
Answer: Greetings in Jesus wonderful name! I understand how you feel when there is nothing that you can save for you and your children due to the size of your family that you have to feed. I can tell you that God made the rich and the poor alike (Prov 22:2), to me that does mean, it is not wrong to be born poor but to stay that way till the end of life is a crime. A diligent hand makes a man rich the Bible says (Prov 10:4). In other words, God has made all humans alike with an equal opportunity to prosper in life, even though all do not have the same resources with them to prosper in the same way as the other, and also there are injustice in the world that makes a rich man richer and keeps the poor man to be poorer.
The question, "Why did God give such responsibility to have more kids yet I can't take care of them?", is not a practical question, rather I would tell you, God gave you so much brains to decide how much is enough, but by your free will you have decided ten is enough. That means God has honored your decision to go for ten children and have blessed you with enough. You must be first and foremost be forever thankful for them all, when people are not able enough to have even one kid in their life with so much wealth with them which they leave to no one but to strangers when they die which I have seen in my life, time and time again with so many people. Vanity of vanity, when they do not know who is going to utilize their wealth with them having no children (Eccl 4:8)! But thank God that He has given you all the children as a great wealth to you. They are your inheritance that you will pass on to glorify God at the end of your life, so bring them up in godliness and fear of God (Psa 127:3-5; Prov 22:1). Rejoice in what you have with you rather than depress yourself with for what you do not have, and use the same as a weapon to destroy the poverty of the spirit within the mind which causes poor people to be poorer when they have a rich God over them who will honor them somewhere down the line if they are rich in faith (Jam 2:5). Teach faith for all your children, they will become a blessing to the world.
Most of the times either we do not plan things or take decisions without thinking of the consequences, then when we find our going difficult we blame God and not take responsibility for our faulty decisions (Prov 19:3). That is what our forefather Adam did after he failed to obey God and took his own decision for himself unthinkingly to later fret and fume against the Lord God whom he accused against to have given a wife who did influence him to take such a bad decision, when in fact it was Adam's disobedience to God that brought such a evil curse of sin upon himself and his children forever (Gen 3:11-12; Rom 5:12). Take responsibility for your own decision and act as a true man of God and a believer, then God will help you come out of the mess you are in right now.
Also it is not wrong to have ten or more kids in our time and age, but looking to the economy we can easily know that, having one or two kids itself bring a lot of financial commitment to us to feed them and supply their need fully than have a lot of kids and supply the meager to sustain them in their life. I understand that in those days past, it was wise to have a lot of children because by the time they all grew up, due to lack of medicine and technological advancement, many children would die due to the high mortality rate so that at the end at least whatever children left will live to old age to keep the name of the family. But now in our days it is wise to go for family planning and a smaller family which we can manage with the income that we get. Jesus said, "28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it— 29 lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish’? 31 Or what king, going to make war against another king, does not sit down first and consider whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 Or else, while the other is still a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks conditions of peace." (Luke 14:28-32). Here in the above verses we see Jesus telling people to plan much before executing a plan, or else the plan becomes a failure because of lack of planning. A plan always equates the execution to the resources available, and cuts the excess to make things happen practically according to the ability of each person. In having godly counsel and guidance, there is always victory and security (Prov 11:14). You could have planned it differently with godly counsel to manage your family better, but now that you decided to have a large one, I can say that it is also a blessing if you could change your mindset and trust God for all the provisions in your life. Only when you have a lot of children, you can have enough to be around your table like a olive tree in a garden (Psa 128:3).
Though you may be working hard to make your children grown, all the hard work will pay off when your children will grow in the fear of the Lord, and then they bring in a lot of money through the hard work they have learned from you when they see you work so hard to make them survive. "As wine makes the heart glad, and bread strengthens the heart, so does oil make the face to shine." (Psalm 104:15). The olive oil [i.e. resources and riches] that your children will produce will make your face shine in the coming days. Olive trees develop deep roots, last a long time, and produce fruit for years, so in a godly family, the children are like olive plants, sturdy and strong and productive to last a long time of a lifetime of achievement (Jer 11:16).
Now the call of the New Testament is not to amass wealth in this world, rather to amass wealth in heaven that will stay with a believer for eternity ahead, and not just temporarily in this earth (Matt 6:19-24). You could live a miserable life just on earth for a while, but if you could end up in the bosom of Father Abraham just like Lazarus in Jesus Parable, it will be worth the living through all the miseries on earth which is only a while compared to the unending eternal riches of eternity of heaven (Luke 16:19-31; 1 Peter 5:10). According to the Scripture, the poor are the humble and afflicted within the world who turn to God in great need and seek His help, they learn to be content with what they have on earth and look forward with great faith by doing good deeds, generosity and willingly sharing with those in need what they have, they continually seek for heavenly provision and wealth that God is going to give them in the future (John 14:3; 1 Tim 6:17-19). These poor are truly rich in faith (Jam 2:5). So first make sure you and your family learn to become rich in faith with the circumstances that God has allowed in your life, then automatically God will bless you all with riches materially and in all other aspect so that you can continue as a family to be a blessing to many many people in the coming days (2 Cor 9:8; Jam 5:10-11; Matt 6:33).
So I encourage you and your family to seek and love the Lord in faith (2 Cor 5:7), you need to walk by faith because you cannot see with your natural eyes what good God has in store for you and your family through this suffering, lack and need that you experience in this life and wait in hope for a rich and a best future from God who rewards without fail all those who live by faith (Rom 8:24-25; Heb 11:1; 2 Cor 2:9). Even apostle Paul went through extreme suffering that God allowed in his life, to make him a eternal excellency of blessing to all generations thereafter (2 Cor 11:23-26, 27; Isa 60:15). As a son of missionary and as a faith worker in the Lord's Vineyard I know what it is to go through all the need and lack in my own family and in my life. But when I look behind to see the great spiritual heritage I have gained to bless my family and the whole world, I thank God and praise the Lord for taking us through it all to teach faith to us unlike other families that had it all, and lost the faith equivalent to the lack of need in their lives. So rejoice in the Lord always, no matter what, again I say rejoice (Php 4:4). Something good is in store for you and your family, wait patiently for the Lord and He will bless you and your family in the right time which He has already planned for you all ahead.
Much Love and Blessings....
Answer: Greetings in Jesus wonderful name! I understand how you feel when there is nothing that you can save for you and your children due to the size of your family that you have to feed. I can tell you that God made the rich and the poor alike (Prov 22:2), to me that does mean, it is not wrong to be born poor but to stay that way till the end of life is a crime. A diligent hand makes a man rich the Bible says (Prov 10:4). In other words, God has made all humans alike with an equal opportunity to prosper in life, even though all do not have the same resources with them to prosper in the same way as the other, and also there are injustice in the world that makes a rich man richer and keeps the poor man to be poorer.
The question, "Why did God give such responsibility to have more kids yet I can't take care of them?", is not a practical question, rather I would tell you, God gave you so much brains to decide how much is enough, but by your free will you have decided ten is enough. That means God has honored your decision to go for ten children and have blessed you with enough. You must be first and foremost be forever thankful for them all, when people are not able enough to have even one kid in their life with so much wealth with them which they leave to no one but to strangers when they die which I have seen in my life, time and time again with so many people. Vanity of vanity, when they do not know who is going to utilize their wealth with them having no children (Eccl 4:8)! But thank God that He has given you all the children as a great wealth to you. They are your inheritance that you will pass on to glorify God at the end of your life, so bring them up in godliness and fear of God (Psa 127:3-5; Prov 22:1). Rejoice in what you have with you rather than depress yourself with for what you do not have, and use the same as a weapon to destroy the poverty of the spirit within the mind which causes poor people to be poorer when they have a rich God over them who will honor them somewhere down the line if they are rich in faith (Jam 2:5). Teach faith for all your children, they will become a blessing to the world.
Most of the times either we do not plan things or take decisions without thinking of the consequences, then when we find our going difficult we blame God and not take responsibility for our faulty decisions (Prov 19:3). That is what our forefather Adam did after he failed to obey God and took his own decision for himself unthinkingly to later fret and fume against the Lord God whom he accused against to have given a wife who did influence him to take such a bad decision, when in fact it was Adam's disobedience to God that brought such a evil curse of sin upon himself and his children forever (Gen 3:11-12; Rom 5:12). Take responsibility for your own decision and act as a true man of God and a believer, then God will help you come out of the mess you are in right now.
Also it is not wrong to have ten or more kids in our time and age, but looking to the economy we can easily know that, having one or two kids itself bring a lot of financial commitment to us to feed them and supply their need fully than have a lot of kids and supply the meager to sustain them in their life. I understand that in those days past, it was wise to have a lot of children because by the time they all grew up, due to lack of medicine and technological advancement, many children would die due to the high mortality rate so that at the end at least whatever children left will live to old age to keep the name of the family. But now in our days it is wise to go for family planning and a smaller family which we can manage with the income that we get. Jesus said, "28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it— 29 lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish’? 31 Or what king, going to make war against another king, does not sit down first and consider whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 Or else, while the other is still a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks conditions of peace." (Luke 14:28-32). Here in the above verses we see Jesus telling people to plan much before executing a plan, or else the plan becomes a failure because of lack of planning. A plan always equates the execution to the resources available, and cuts the excess to make things happen practically according to the ability of each person. In having godly counsel and guidance, there is always victory and security (Prov 11:14). You could have planned it differently with godly counsel to manage your family better, but now that you decided to have a large one, I can say that it is also a blessing if you could change your mindset and trust God for all the provisions in your life. Only when you have a lot of children, you can have enough to be around your table like a olive tree in a garden (Psa 128:3).
Though you may be working hard to make your children grown, all the hard work will pay off when your children will grow in the fear of the Lord, and then they bring in a lot of money through the hard work they have learned from you when they see you work so hard to make them survive. "As wine makes the heart glad, and bread strengthens the heart, so does oil make the face to shine." (Psalm 104:15). The olive oil [i.e. resources and riches] that your children will produce will make your face shine in the coming days. Olive trees develop deep roots, last a long time, and produce fruit for years, so in a godly family, the children are like olive plants, sturdy and strong and productive to last a long time of a lifetime of achievement (Jer 11:16).
Now the call of the New Testament is not to amass wealth in this world, rather to amass wealth in heaven that will stay with a believer for eternity ahead, and not just temporarily in this earth (Matt 6:19-24). You could live a miserable life just on earth for a while, but if you could end up in the bosom of Father Abraham just like Lazarus in Jesus Parable, it will be worth the living through all the miseries on earth which is only a while compared to the unending eternal riches of eternity of heaven (Luke 16:19-31; 1 Peter 5:10). According to the Scripture, the poor are the humble and afflicted within the world who turn to God in great need and seek His help, they learn to be content with what they have on earth and look forward with great faith by doing good deeds, generosity and willingly sharing with those in need what they have, they continually seek for heavenly provision and wealth that God is going to give them in the future (John 14:3; 1 Tim 6:17-19). These poor are truly rich in faith (Jam 2:5). So first make sure you and your family learn to become rich in faith with the circumstances that God has allowed in your life, then automatically God will bless you all with riches materially and in all other aspect so that you can continue as a family to be a blessing to many many people in the coming days (2 Cor 9:8; Jam 5:10-11; Matt 6:33).
So I encourage you and your family to seek and love the Lord in faith (2 Cor 5:7), you need to walk by faith because you cannot see with your natural eyes what good God has in store for you and your family through this suffering, lack and need that you experience in this life and wait in hope for a rich and a best future from God who rewards without fail all those who live by faith (Rom 8:24-25; Heb 11:1; 2 Cor 2:9). Even apostle Paul went through extreme suffering that God allowed in his life, to make him a eternal excellency of blessing to all generations thereafter (2 Cor 11:23-26, 27; Isa 60:15). As a son of missionary and as a faith worker in the Lord's Vineyard I know what it is to go through all the need and lack in my own family and in my life. But when I look behind to see the great spiritual heritage I have gained to bless my family and the whole world, I thank God and praise the Lord for taking us through it all to teach faith to us unlike other families that had it all, and lost the faith equivalent to the lack of need in their lives. So rejoice in the Lord always, no matter what, again I say rejoice (Php 4:4). Something good is in store for you and your family, wait patiently for the Lord and He will bless you and your family in the right time which He has already planned for you all ahead.
Much Love and Blessings....
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