Can A Christian Have Two Wives At A Time?
Answer: Greetings in Jesus wonderful name!
At the time of the ministry of Jesus, it was an accepted fact that if someone who is a wife does not live a life pleasing to the husband, according to the tradition of Moses, they interpreted that a person can divorce a wife legally and marry another one without breaking the law of Moses in any way (Matt 19:7). But originally, Moses said that if a woman doesn't find favor in her husband's eyes because of some uncleanness in her or some kind of habit that he doesn't like, he can write a certificate of divorce and put it in her hand, and can send her out of his house (Deut 24:1-4). This instruction Moses gave, so that men who are hardened in their heart towards a woman may not practice polygamy but at least choose a wife to stay with her faithfully in his next relationship in the sight of God, if what he had put forward is truth, so that this may not become a reason for their sinful life of polygamy to be practiced openly (Matt 19:8, 9). Then when the disciples heard the standard of Jesus setting a new high of one wife for life except for immorality on her part, they told that it is better not to marry at all if that is the case of a man who gets caught in marriage with a woman he does not like and there is no way out, then Jesus relaxed what He said and further told that what He uttered was said only to those people who take such dead lock of wed lock as a cross to carry to attain a higher standard of righteousness within marriage where they suffer in their life because of it, where a person chooses to sacrifice his sexual urge for the Kingdom of heaven's sake and accepts such ineffective woman not fit for active sex life by asking God the gift of overcoming sexual desire which is in him by requesting Him to take out the urge for fulfillment sacrificially, just like apostle Paul as a bachelor did for the sake of fulfilling the apostolic assignments which concerns churches and the Kingdom of God which gave him no time to think about any need for having a family at all (Matt 19:10-12; 1 Cor 9:5; 7:9, 10-16, 27, 29, 37; 2 Cor 11:28).
I believe Paul himself faced such a fight over this matter in his personal life in his thirties and even may be up to forty years or a little more, where at the end of it all God gave him victory over his sexual urges which he has not able to overcome until then (Rom 7:15-25; 1 Cor 9:27; 2 Cor 12:7-10). When God granted Paul his sincere desire of struggle over temptation with his flesh, he received a gift from God to exercise self-control supernaturally over the passions of his flesh (1 Cor 7:7-9). Thus Jesus Himself said that there are three categories who overcome the sexual desire to have fleshly satisfaction, 1) Eunuchs of emasculated men who were born from mother's womb, 2) Eunuchs who were made by men because of becoming a slave for a rich man's house or in a king's palace for the sake of employment through undergoing voluntary castration and finally, 3) like in the life of Paul who had the right to take a wife along with him in his ministry but chose to ask God sincerely to overcome his desire for sexual satisfaction by making himself a eunuch supernaturally by heaven's gift of castration which is taking away the desire for sexual fulfillment and get loaded instead by a overcoming power of grace that gave a spiritual satisfaction instead of it within his heart (1 Cor 7:7). Paul considered married life with sexual satisfaction as a gift of God, and also considered those who overcome the sexual urge for the sake of deep intimacy with God and for serving God to fulfill specific assignment in their lives for the Kingdom of God and heaven's sake also as those who find a different kind of grace and spiritual fulfillment instead of a sexual one which He told as also a gift from God ( 1 Cor 7:32, 34). Thus we know that Jesus was speaking specifically to certain people who are in a deadlock of wedlock, who have been called to sacrificially live by carrying their own cross for the Kingdom sake without divorcing their wife (Luke 9:23-26), but rather by fulfilling their assignment that the Lord has for them to live in fulfillment of spiritual satisfaction instead of a physical one which will be given to them as a gift from God specifically when they ask for a overcoming life over flesh sincerely for the sake of Kingdom assignments that Christ wants them to get it fulfilled. But such specific call of God does not lessen the value of married life in any way, which was the perfect will of God for all humans before the fall of humans in to sin. The bottom line is, no matter whether we are married or not or even though married live as though we are not because of the unavoidable circumstances forced upon us (1 Cor 7:27-31), God wants us to live for Jesus Christ who had given His life as a ransom to redeem us from sin and death, so that we could live in the will of God and in friendship with Him for eternity ahead and be rewarded for it richly now and in the life to come for the Glory of God.
Thus when people questioned the permanence of marriage or its validity according to the law of Moses, Jesus "4 ....answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matt 19:4-6).
In other words, Jesus was saying that God did not make Eve and Eva for Adam to share in the beginning of time, but rather only only Eve for life, which means the perfect will of God for any human is to have one wife for life, unless the man or the woman runs away from the home of marriage unfaithfully in infidelity which gives the aggrieved spouse the right to annul the marriage as void legally in the sight of God (Matt 19:9).
So I believe this as something less than the perfect will of God, which is now forbidden as sin in the New Testament by Jesus.
The most mean-spirited sarcastic mockery of God's mercy came from the mouth of an unbeliever, after he has given himself in to polygamy, citing Cain his forefather and saying if God could show mercy to a sinner like Cain, I deserve more mercy from God for being a sinner more than him, and I hold the right to sin as long as I feel it as right in my own sight just like he did and justified himself as right (Gen 4:23-24; Gen 4:5-15, 16-17). Even so, as things are getting so bad, people are now multiplying wives and even the wives agree to it to make us understand that we are inching closer and close to the day of judgment as it happened in the days of Noah (Luke 17:26-27). The grace and mercy abusers who throw their ugly taunts at the face of God by both extreme of ascetic life or indulging in hyper grace have been prophesied to come by the apostles, and the very happenings before our very eyes prove these prophesies are being unprecedentedly fulfilled in our times and generation like never before (2 Peter 3:3-9; 1 Tim 4:1-4; 2 Tim 3:1, 13). The time for the door of repentance to life is being closed slowly by God day by day and there will be no way out for the mockers before the Tribulation to escape in the rapture of the Church which is the only way out for those who are eagerly waiting for the coming of the Lord (Acts 11:18; Luke 17:27-30; Heb 9:28; Luke 21:36).
The truth about a husband and a wife as being a type of Christ and the Church in intimacy, fidelity and oneness is being compromised by Christians who believe polygamy to be ok in their lives. They are not a good example to the Church of Jesus Christ to lead them (Eph 5:31-32; 1 Tim 3:2, 5).
We know that God allowed polygamy because of the hardness of human heart in the times of the Old Testament, and also have given law to restrain the injustice being meted out to the next generation which becomes affected by the sins of the previous generation (Matt 19:8; Deut 21:15; Exo 20:5-6). Thus it shows that a man cannot divide his affection equally among his wives, and therefore will tend to sin when in polygamy, which stands against the perfect will of God that He has planned for all humans to prosper in this life and in the life to come. God permitted in the Old Testament times a life of polygamy because of the lack of power and revelation of the love and salvation of Jesus Christ, which had hardened their hearts to make them live just as the heathens of their times lived around them, but just at least with a faith for salvation from such sins and weaknesses which they confessed to God regularly. But now in the New Testament times, Jesus Christ has revealed Himself in His fullness to all His people as the Bride Groom and the Bride, which is the Lord and His Church which shows us that we are given more in revelation and power to live a godly life of monogamy in love towards God and one wife, to reveal the Trinity in unity acting within the family life of a Christian. Because God has given more to us Christians, he will expect more from us (Luke 12:48).
May God help us live according to His perfect will, and be pleasing to Him to be considered worthy by His grace and mercy to be raptured during the event of it!
Much Blessings.....
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